6 Tips for Building Relationships

There are many women's magazines, self-help books, counselors and weekend retreats designed for women who want to learn more about love. Love, as the emotion that you feel for yourself, a partner, towards your children and share between friends, is the most important factor in one’s life. I am not saying that you shouldn’t see what's out there, but there is too much information! I found sifting through it all a bit overwhelming. It was difficult for me to navigate through it. I needed a structure that would feel best for me and my needs.

Self care after divorce is tricky. First things first, I believed in many misconceptions about love. The basic truth is: A man can’t connect to you through his mind, or his body, or what you have in common spiritually. Those are all myths, and the reason why we so often struggle to truly connect. All a man cares about is how he feels when he’s around you. He wants to feel turned on– sexually, emotionally and romantically– and he also wants to feel completely safe to be himself. That means totally, 100% accepted and loved for who he is. And, again– because this is so important– a man falls in love when he feels safe with you.

I put together a list of tips and resources that I have found helpful in my new relationship journey.

Manifest the kind of relationship you want

Here is mine: Having a partner that can feel completely safe to be himself around me would make me feel safe around him. Someone who is honest and authentic would help me express myself honestly, authentically and without judgment. It would also encourage me to use my heart as a way through life, choose that relationship and commit to having it.

Private coaching with Tiffany Louise

Tiffany created a discovery pathway that was designed specifically for my needs. I have learned so much about myself through this process. Her sound advice taught me lessons that I can share with my loved ones, not only with a potential partner, but also in all aspects of my life. Working with her has been the best investment that I have done for myself.

Her passion and life's work is to support others in creating their healthiest, happiest and most spiritually-connected lives. You can start by following her on Instagram or purchasing her journal This Year I Will... A 52-Week Guided Journal to Achieve Your Goals.

For The Best Secrets On How To Make Him Fall–And Stay–In Love

Read Rori Raye “Have the Relationship You Want” digital book. Tiffany told me about this book and it has been a real eye opener.

Change Your Mindset

Men are right. The “relationship talk” does not help. Learn how to convert the reactivity of fear and shame into a deeper connection by reading "How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It". 

Online Resources

Follow social media accounts that feed you short, daily reminders of no BS relationship tips. I enjoy Mark Groves, the man behind @createthelove. 

What’s Your Love Language?

Discover the secret that has helped (literally) millions of people strengthen and improve their relationships– one language at a time. Take the “Five Love Languages” test.

I am not a relationship expert by any means, but I do have an interest in having meaningful relationships in my life, and learning how to evaluate flaws in any relationship, to decide if they truly interfere with the possibility of a beautiful connection.  

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MD